|Why yes, I do own rose colored glasses.|
In keeping with the tagline of this blog "How I learned to cut myself some slack," here's an example from just yesterday.
Magic Man has been stellar lately. I can easily say that last week he did far more housework than I did. Any normal person would be overjoyed and appreciated. Me? I got down on myself because I wasn't doing enough which meant I needed to do more but I've been really tired but I should suck it up and be super wife and and and...
You get the idea.
How I cut myself some slack: First off I expressed my fears of not being a good wife and all that entailed to Magic Man when he got home from work last night. Vocalizing it made it seem a little silly and he kindly pointed out that I was being a tad irrational and over the top. In verbally processing with him I realized that what I need to do is be appreciative of all that he's been doing, but not compare my efforts to his. We're two different people with two different energy levels and two different points of view on this pregnancy thing. It is good for him to step up when I'm stepping down a bit. I should appreciate him and tell him I appreciate him. And then be done with it.
So that's what I did.
I am learning to alter my expectations of myself. Make them more realistic. I want to be able to teach my daughter to have reasonable expectations of herself. In those early years, and throughout her life, she will learn this lesson not from a book but from her parents. I can't teach her something I don't know how to do.
So I'm learning.